Welcome to this series of weekly messages for parents and caregivers of teens. Each message offers practical, compassionate information about simple ways to support your teen’s well-being. These messages are intended to be warm, non-judgmental, and useful in everyday family life.

October

Start your conversations with curiosity 

The strongest protective factor for teens is a trusted adult relationship. This week, try replacing questions about school performance with questions about their experiences: “Who did you spend time with today?” or “What was the best part of your day?” Small conversations build big trust.  Learn more: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hVqO3ESJ9fo 

Listen More Than You Talk 

When teens feel heard without judgment, they’re more likely to share concerns before they become problems. Practice active listening by resisting the urge to immediately solve or correct. Sometimes connection begins with simply saying, “Tell me more.”  Learn more: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=66LjOofE18k 

Growing Self-Esteem and Resilience  

Self-esteem grows through belonging, competence, and self-compassion—not comparison or perfection. Offer specific recognition of effort, help your teen challenge all-or-nothing thinking, and remind them that their value doesn’t depend on outcomes. The message—”You are valuable, even when things go poorly”—can make a real difference. Learn more: Great article for teens: Fitting in and self-esteem | Mental Health America 

Let’s have a safe and fun homecoming! 

Homecoming is one of the highlights of the school year!  Help your teen enjoy a safe, fun homecoming week by clearly setting expectations about substance use and safe choices, such as never riding with an impaired driver. Remind them they can contact a parent or trusted adult anytime for a safe ride. Learn more: Parent Resources: Talk. They Hear You 

When to Seek Help 

You do not need to diagnose a mental health condition before seeking support. If you notice changes in mood, behavior, sleep, eating, friendships, attendance, or school performance that lasts for several weeks, intensify, or interfere with daily life, reach out for support. Begin with your school social worker, counselor, or pediatrician, who can help identify next steps. If there is immediate danger, contact 988 or go to the nearest emergency room.  See the link for more supports in King County.  Learn More: Cultivating Connections: Supporting Youth Mental Health: Free Crisis Services Available for Every Fa… 

November

Gratitude Practices you can do at home!  

Gratitude grows in small, ordinary moments, like a shared meal or a quick thank-you note left on a bedroom door. If you’re looking for ideas, the Greater Good Science Center has easy, research-backed gratitude practices for families: https://www.greatergood.berkeley.edu

Create Daily Connection Rituals 

Strong relationships are built through consistent, everyday interactions. A quick check-in during a drive, dinner, or evening walk can provide valuable opportunities for connection. Aim for 10 uninterrupted minutes with your teen each day.  Learn more: Essentials for Parenting Teens